bottoms Up!

I was just browsing through some sites,reading random articles on my way,finalizing an idea on something ,I could write about.I was talking to my friend also,side by side,who told me,write something about why vodka and breezer is considered to be a girl’s drink only.

Now,that’s a very good topic.I have heard the same myth,specially where i live.In my group of friends,there are some who would gulp down only so-called ‘men’s drinks’ ,and then there are some,who don’t go by the traditional rule-book.I am not judging anyone ,but before I could say more. (I did my own research.I was extremely bored and thought of doing a survey. šŸ˜› )

Kindly click on the below link to see for yourself.

Survey

My survey composed of 18 males out of 28 total.When it comes to drinking,guys can have any drink but if they are told to choose,they will opt for beer or whiskey.Interesting fact is if women are told to choose or if a guy is asked to choose for a girl,majority of the people went for strong drinks,which clearly shows it’s a myth that women only select colored or flavored drinks in those curvy glasses.They have equal penchant for those ‘hard’ drinks.To be honest,I did see a pattern that men have a tendency to drink beer more,and prefer less vodka,but it’s usually in the psych of that person.My friends ,usually males,do drink vodka on a regular basis along with beer.Its neither less nor more.At par you can say.

So I believe,only some of the population thinks and discriminates on this basis.And there are many times,when the guy gets drunkĀ more easily than the girl,so mind you…think twice before saying-beer is only a men’s drink. šŸ˜›

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so many promises! 3

Time was flying away so fast,that she didn’t notice,it was already march.Farewell was coming round the corner and she was getting more depressed.She was a junior to him & knew it well,that he is going to leave the college this year.She has doubts whether theirĀ relationshipĀ will work or not.It was going to be a long distance one,now that he is graduating.Riya has two more years to go till she graduates.Already her friends have started teasing her about such a complicated relationship,but she dismissed their talks.

She heard from her senior friend that people can go to the farewell party as date.Riya expected him to ask her out.She was lost in her dream world,Ā that’sĀ when her phone buzzed.The text message was from him.

hey babe!wassup? šŸ˜‰

Nothing much,just studying.You tell.

Oh!i have my hands in shit.This project is taking a lot of my time.I am stuck with the coding & have to submit this next week.Don’t know what to do! šŸ˜¦

She sighed.It was the same.All the time,he talked about his work.She replied.

Don’t worry,you will come up with something.You always do. šŸ™‚ Maybe you can rest for a while and then get back to your work.

Right!I will sleep for a while,then have dinner & get back to work.

Good!Sleep now sweetie :-* tc

tc,bye :-*

What started as daily continuous chatting was reduced to 15 minute chats nowadays.She was controlling her patience,always in an irritated mood.She kept the phone aside & concentrated into her studies.It was 2Ā amĀ in the morning,and she was half expecting him to text her,but her phone was not buzzing.She felt like throwing the phone away,her anger was on the rise.He talked to herĀ mostlyĀ at nights because in the college,he didn’t get time to talk to her or meet her,also he was afraid,lest anyone sees them together.Their relationship thrived on text messages.Tonight,she felt lonely.He didn’t text her.

Next morning,she saw him in the college.He didn’t seem to notice her or was he ignoring?She tried getting his attention.he walked past her without giving her any sign,that he acknowledged herĀ presence.At night,he texted her.

Hi baby!what r u doin?

just thnkin abt u

oh yea!like? šŸ˜›

She knew he was talking in a dirty sense.She texted.

like u r sittin wd me nw & watchin a romantc mov

&?

then u hold my hand & caress it

&?

u pull me towrds u & hug me,kiss my forehead,& say u love me.

What?that’s it? :-O i wanted smthng else

right!U r 1 horny person.u knw wht u nly talk 2 me wen u r high or wanna tok dirty.rest of d tyms u hv ur ‘work’ or sm excuse.i m tired of ths shit.wht do u wnt frm me?tell me frnkly,is it just theĀ non-conventionalĀ stuff u r lookin fr? :-O

y r u tokin lyk ths?u knw very well,i luv u

oh yea!its fake,jus sayin these 3 wrds,doesn’t solve nythng.i hv noticed ths,tht u reply fast wen u tok dirty or wnt to hv sex chat ,othr tyms il probly sleep while txtin u.isn Ā tht obvious,u wanna tok to me becoz u hv ur own intrsts to count fr.m tired.i wnt smbdy who will b thr wen m lonely,feelin unwell or sad.m alws thr fr u wen u need me.is tht too much 2 ask fr?

Riya was pissed off with him tonight & she demanded an apology.

riya!u r misundrstndin me.its nt lyk tht.

then wht is it lyk?huh?

ah!i cnt xpln,k fyn,i wont tok lyk tht,nw plz b happy.

She thought for a moment.In the past,he had made promises but never kept it.If heĀ committedĀ a mistake,just said a ‘sorry’ and thenĀ committedĀ that mistake again.

u took me fr grntd,& u wil repeat ths agn,i knw it.i feel lyk brkin up wd u šŸ˜¦ wen ws d last tym,u took me out?wen ws d last tym,u toked to me actually properly?

He knew it too.He never took her out,apart from the time when he took her out only to take her to his home.Just once they went out,as a proper outing.

dnt do ths 2 me! i luv u a lot.u promised me ul nvr lev me.didn i tld u frm befr tht i might nt b able to gv u time,coz m busy mostly.

yeah!nw tht u hv ths excuse,ul alws remain bzy evn tho u r free,if i cn remain awake 2 tok 2 u at nyt,y cnt u tok to me wen u r jus relaxin at hm,or watchin tv?& dnt u tok abt promises.doesn look good on ur mouth.

the fight continued & so was the deterioration to their already losing relationship.The end result came out was a mereĀ apologyĀ from his side which she accepted meekly.But this time it was a harsh blow to her.She realised that she is losing interest in him & was scared that maybe she will never find love again,if they do breakup.She kept thinking about her options.

maybe I have high expectations.Oh no!i don’t have. I have seen other girls around me & the so called relationship they have wherein the boy does every bidding the girl makes.I don’t even have any sort of such crap.

Maybe our relationship is just pure lust.We are magnetic &Ā that’sĀ what works between us.No!i love him a lot.I get crazy if I don’t talk to him daily.

What about the future promises?marriage,kids?He brought this thing first.Will we ever reach to that point?I am a jerk.Seriously what i am talking about?Marriage,kids is a distant thing;I don’t even know whether we are meant for each other.But I can’t be in a casual relationship.I need a stable one which has a connected future.

Riya knew the answers,but is she being ignorant?Are they meant for each other or she is just forcing herself & him to continue this monotony?

Party girl or nerdy?

well..considering myself pretty,its obvious for people to like my pic. šŸ˜›:p ok..m not trying to boast here..it just i beleive tht Ā šŸ˜‰;)

But it also gave rise to some questions which my friends asked me.

“Girl! You have changed a lot.A party person?You weren’t like this at all.”

Hmmn,that made me think,what was i then earlier? :-\ In the school,i was reserved,didn’t talk to any one except with my close friends.When i was in high school,I opened up a little bit,but still one thing that remained constant throughout my school years was that i was kind off into studying( or in other words you can say nerdy! :-P)I wore specs & that gave an impression of a geek .com’on if i wear lenses,you won’t call me geek right? :-O Nowadays,i wear lenses & specs both.Thankfully,i haven’t heard people saying anymore of this crap.

So,i felt that i was tagged a nerd because:-

  1. I wore specs all the time
  2. I was an introvert
  3. i studied maybe (Gosh!i didn’t know studying is considered so uncool :-O)

First of all,i don’t like such tags.It’s like confining somebody in a particular domain. šŸ˜¦Ā People change consistently & Ā this is a universal fact.Accept it!I am still the same from inside(take it anyway you want šŸ˜› ) ,it’s just my interests have increased.

I love studying & partying,am an ambivert now & am content with the way my life is changing its direction.I love the new me. šŸ™‚

True friendsĀ acceptĀ the way you are.They just change some of our interests Ā for our own benefit.but yes,i am pretty much sure,my parents wouldn’t want me to change.They would prefer a nerd . šŸ˜€ šŸ˜€

So many promises! 1

“Let’s meet up tomorrow again,this time not at your home!” suggested Riya.
Aryan was talking to someone on his phone.He looked at her,nodded & spoke for another 5 minutes on the phone.
“Sorry yaar! i was on the phone,what did you say?”
Riya rolled her eyes & repeated ,this timeĀ ordering “We are meeting tomorrow,not at your home.”
“Yaar! i can’t guarantee whether i can come tomorrow,i have to meet a friend who has come from abroad.He won’t be staying here for long.I will let you know by evening,but i am just telling you from before.”
Riya pouted her lips & literally pleaded him.Aryan could only offer his apologies.
Sitting cross-legged on the bed that night,thinking the same thing that bothers her whenever she goes to his flat.Its always the same.he makes me come to his flat,has his fill,does whatever he wants,but the next moment,he doesn’t do what i want.I always go in the hope that he will do what makes me happy,but i am always disappointed.Thank god!We didn’t make love,otherwise i will be feeling guilty for my entire life.Why can’t he do things that please me?Why everything is related to his flat?

With this she dozed off.Riya fell for Aryan accidentally.He is 2 years senior to her & is on the verge of passing out.There’s every possibility that their relationship might not work.Her friends warned her of him.Maybe he is just having a time pass before passing out,after all he never had a girlfriend before.she was an easy target.Who knows?But Riya on the other hand,was ready to sacrifice many things for him,she was serious about him.

as usual,he cancelled his plan for the next day.Riya was enraged.this is the millionth time,he is cancelling for a meet up.

I am sure,if i had agreed for another trip to his flat,he would have agreed to meet me.

She didn’t pick up his calls.She didn’t reply to his messages,such was her anger.But she gave in around midnight.She loved him so much that his voice,his loving talks melted her heart instantly.
She just loves him too much,beyond measure.

continued later on

A mother,A wife,A woman

i finished with my exams on 2nd may and since then i am getting so much bored.I personally don’t believe in Mother’s day.I feel just a single day is not enough to show our gratitude and respect to our moms.If we truly care,we should celebrate everyday because she is too precious to be idolised and adored only for a single day.I just feel its a western concept.
nowadays if i am at home,i am supposed to help my mom with the housework because i am a “girl”.a very good excuse indeed but perhaps i don’t quite like the idea of doing such work.I can sympathise with my mom who does 95% of the work,the rest is shared among me,my dad & bro.But during holidays,i just become too lazy to do household work.Its true everywhere.most of the past generation moms do all the house chores.Its very rare to find any male member of the family helping her.
though i am lazy,but when i think from this perspective,i get an energy from somewhere,and place myself in front my mother to help her in anyway.She is all alone doing everything for the family,she deserves such help from our side.She makes our favourite dishes,she cleans our room if we forget doing it our self.Either she washes our clothes herself or strains her back while doing on a washing machine.She is the one who wakes up every morning early, before everyone else does.She is the only one who goes to sleep after everyone has slept.So many reasons!!!!
Yet we don’t care to help her out.We just bring some gifts on her birthday or mother’s day & that’s it.We forget about her.To be honest,i personally felt that she would be more happy if she sees her family helping her the way she helped build the family.
Husbands:take care of your wife,Don’t shower her with just gifts,she would be more happy if you give time to her,talk to her,sit and laugh with her.Help her with household work.Let her take rest on weekends and surprise her with some culinary delights you made yourself.Even if it gets burnt or doesn’t taste good,she will realise that you at least made an effort. :-)A woman likes it very much if her man takes the role of a woman in a family sometimes.

Children:Don’t take your mother to be granted.Help her in every way.If you know cooking,go ahead.Try to do your own work,don’t just yell from your room “mom! please get this done…”Let your mom take rest on weekends.Just like you look forward to weekends,she does too.Maybe go out together and have a family fun.

Guys!nowadays,the girl you are dating or maybe about to date,just remember this fact,that 95% of the girls are going to work after marriage.Don’t expect that she will act like your mother.She won’t get time to do the household work.Just like you ,she will return home at 8pm.She will be tired just like you so don’t expect her to rush off to kitchen to make dinner while you slog in front the TV.Go and make dinner together.Help her in making breakfast in the morning.Distribute the work evenly.Com mon`Just like you she also studied hard to become something in life,her parents didn’t let her work or teach her work,because just like you she too was studying for her degree. she is a girl,doesn’t mean she knows every household work.She tries hard to adjust,but please don’t try her always.take initiative and love her for what she is.Many men don’t understand this.Please try to treat her as equal and i mean really equal,not just verbally.

My brother and i have been raised up with this notion.To be honest my brother is the best cook in the home just after my mother,followed by my father.My brother and father,help her in the chores in the evening when they return from office.on weekends,one of them cooks.When i stay at home,i make sure i am always there when she needs me.I am not saying every family should be like ours,but what i am trying to say,make an effort!!!

Not Meant For Love

when i first saw you
i knew it was only you
instant connection
with no deliberation
we talked for a while
and i made you mine
but forgot to ask you
whether you love me too
though later you say
you love me so true
but i don’t know
my heart fails to get it
even though i want to
there’s little bit regret
did i rush into this?
cause, the way you talked endless
now its just minutes or less
did i do something wrong?
or you, somewhere else, belong?

you don’t speak much
and i got tired of asking you
though i used to
but you never answered
my ego is on the rise
do you really love me right?
is it just physical you seek?
i am not that girl,i am meek
so tell me,do you wish to go forward?
cause,already my time’s wasted
i don’t want to anymore
it would hurt me
more than you know
though i may act ignorant
but you won’t know
what lies in my heart
you never unearthed it
cause,you were too far
you weren’t interested
and i cried hard
why i even met you!
you only talked,when you were bored
where’s the respect,i deserve?
i am much more worth
you don’t realise
i was your first girl
but you aren’t treating her right
if you don’t change
she will go,to the place she is happier
she tried hard to make you come back
but you failed to realise her effort
you aren’t meant for love

Just for now

i get hurt
by that word,
when i know u won’t b there.

i am with u
fr the time,
 its the only moment i have.
i know what is in the future;
i know u just won’t b there.
u r afraid of them,i know.
yet u hv hopes fr me still,
but i know its not so…
coz its never gonna work!
maybe i love you too much,

to let you go now,
but i will shed tears when time comes.

 i will hide them,
you won’t know,
to bid you goodbye;
with a smile alone.
i will be happy wherever you are,
with whomever you want to,
coz i have the memories to live with.
cherishing them in my heart,
that i met & loved such a beautiful person!