It has been a long time since I wrote something after my last article. Well! in that article itself, I promised myself to write even more. Seems like I am already breaking my New year resolution. 😛
Firstly! This post is personal, so those who don’t want to hear my ramblings can skip this post entirely. No hard feelings. 🙂 Those who can bear it, go ahead. 😀
I am actually very happy to share with you all that for the very first time, something beautiful has happened in my life. I had my first anniversary on Jan 13th of this year and I am delighted to have completed an amazing year with that special person. ❤
If you have read my earlier posts, you may have got the inkling that somehow Love never hit the right chord in my life. I had gone through ups and downs, bad romances(Lady Gaga,yess!first time I have mentioned her song in my post. 😛 ) and horrible breakups; and actually vowed to stay away from this ‘stuff’. But you know right, anything forbidden is more enticing. 😉 I am a flawed human but I am proud of my ‘mistake’ this time.
My love story is weird actually. There is no fairytale charm in it, if that’s what you are expecting. We had been normal friends since the start of the college. I liked him as a genuine friend, nothing else ever. Same goes for him. His friend circle is different from mine. We just talked in the class or when we had some work or when we just wanted to hangout if our separate friend circle was unavailable. We didn’t text each other that much.
Things started changing when we were in our final year. My heart was still recovering from the worst possible breakup ever and my friends were desperate to make me gain weight. Now you must be possibly thinking what happened? I lost weight drastically and had lost my appetite as well due to that heartbreaking stuff. Even though my heart wanted to eat food, my body rejected it.Grr!
My friends knew that this guy can make you laugh or make you cheerful for no reason. So we used to hangout with him and his friends.His friends ,as I have seen,are the most energetic and bubbly people ever.They talk,laugh and do just about anything.I have never seen them sitting quietly.So it’s impossible to brood in their midst,which was a good thing for me at that time.I found my appetite and weight because of him actually.He distracted my mind so much that it was helping my body and my heart. This is how we started getting closer to each other. He cared for me unconsciously and I liked his chirpy attitude. Our conversations found their way into our cellphones. We talked normally but we were sharing details that we never did before. Then last January, I took the first step. My friends have been adamant to give him a chance and they told me, he was always the one for me and that I didn’t know that. I laughed at their thoughts at first but thought about this. Maybe this can work. I asked him out for a coffee and it was a huge thing for me because anything wrong can make the friendship go away too.
We went out and discussed more intimately about each other’s lives, past lives and everything. Our first date was getting to know each other more. We even talked about how to carry on with this thing because obviously, we didn’t have feelings at that time. We took this very slow. We always kept this thing in our mind that friendship comes first. Daily conversations, spending time with each other and texting made us come closer. We realized we were developing feelings. I was apprehensive of this because I didn’t want to get hurt again. He promised me he won’t do that. Even though we weren’t a couple, but his promise made me strong enough to trust him fully so I didn’t stop my heart from falling for him. It took almost two months to finally realize what we want and so we decided to commit. That was the best decision I ever made.
Till date, we talk like friends, fight like lovers and makeup like small children getting a candy. 😛 Actually we never have those big fights. It fizzles out easily. 😛 We had made a pact , no matter what, we will tell everything to each other. So I cannot storm out of the room when we are fighting even if I wanted to. The biggest thing which makes us stay together is the understanding. We come from different cultures and our first priority has always been to talk to & about each other. We talk about anything, random and serious…It’s important you know.
Since August, we have been in a long distance relationship. So it’s difficult to talk 24 by 7.But we had decided no matter what, we will talk daily at least for 5 minutes. Skype has been our savior.He did come one time to visit me, and we had lunch and talked, laughed.But he also broke the news to me that for a month he will be in China. So from different cities, we graduated into different countries long distance relationship. 😀
Yes! we craved for each other’s company and we still do now. It had been tough when we desired physical companionship, only to feel dejected at staying so apart. We knew that this long distance love was agreed by both of us. It wasn’t easy. We distracted our mind by getting ourselves engrossed in our work, friends so that we don’t brood on this. This actually helped us.
The other problem we faced was misunderstanding. Since we thrived only through Skype and phone, sometimes we misunderstood each other. We had small tiffs but resolved it within an hour or so.
To be honest,we have different interests. We have different personalities too. But our love has been the binding factor. Maybe it’s true. Opposites attract. He is more romantic than me and the best thing about him, he can surprise me anytime. Though I don’t usually believe in fairy tales, but he and his acts make me believe in them nowadays. Gosh! I Love him so much.(Blushing 🙂 )
We had our share of bad times, but the good times rolled more. 😉 When you are in a long distance relationship, it is important to have regular communication. Also keep this in mind that both of you will have different lives, so fix a time when you both are free to talk. Never hide even the smallest of the things. And keep sending each other memorabilia or small gifts to show your love. Because you need to compensate the absence of the other using the lovely gifts they have sent.
I have found my love and pray for it to last an eternity. And I pray for you to not lose hope. 🙂